Not that I have tons of experience, but I thought I would touch on this topic.
Bottom line is-I've always had a 'thing' for guys in this brand of music. From a young age, I was always attracted to men my peers and sisters deemed as ugly. All my friends liked short cropped hair, polo shirts, and abercrombie or south pole wearing guys. Which was a turn off for me.
I was more attracted to men who looked like they should work at a Renaissance fair or at least be an extra in brave heart. Long hair, sweaty and lean with tons of body hair. (I like hairy men. I know it's strange. I just think it's so masculine...delicious)
It didn't necessarily matter what race the guy was as long as he fit the short list of requirements.
I've always had a fascination for finding beauty in the grotesque. I liked that my friends thought these guys were unkempt and not worthy. I liked the juxtaposition of a long haired man having a feminine quality yet maintaining a masculine edge. (long hair usually a beauty trait resigned for women) It just turned me on-the thought of a guy like that made me tingle between my legs and excited me.
It just so happens that the music I started to fall in love with at a young age usually had something to do with men that fit this desciption. The aggression, the hair flying everywhere, the shirt strewn across the stage revealing a chest soaked in perspiration, hands moving lovingly across the strings of a guitar or bass, and a deep and evil growl that made something inside me quench. When every one's first celebrity crush was Will Smith or Tom Cruise-mine was King Ov Hell from Gorgoroth (pictured above *droolll*) and Mikael Akerfeldt's from Opeth.
Yeah-it's an acquired taste.
Naturally-all this would affect my dating choices. I had to date someone with as much passion for music as I contained and nothing less would satisfy me. But as I reached about 15-I started to wonder if the types of guys I like would in anyway be interested in me. Luckily, I never had a problem finding boys....
(Dating in The Metal Scene pt. 2: Race Issues coming soon...)
Sorry for the lack of postage.