"Your Not Like The Rest of Them..."
Tell me what the hell this means?
I was at my brother's apartment meeting some of his friends and one guy (a friend of a friend) in particular (who had a confederate flag bedspread mind you)-got to talking to me about music, political views, yadda yadda. Then rather abruptly he says "You and your brother aren't like the rest of them". I sort of was dumbfounded then a fiery rage starts to bubble in me and I ask "What does that mean?" He sort of shrugs and goes off on this explanation that my brother and I aren't like regular black people. We don't dress or speak like most black people. In his words he says "You dress like us and that's a good thing". I decide to quiet my inner rage and diplomatically have a conversation with him about how that sounded to me and why its a tad offensive. He got super offended and said 'Ah, now your pulling the black card on me. I was just complimenting you.' he said this sort of jokingly but by that time I had enough so I choose to go tell my brother I'm leaving.
First of all-I'm confused on how this was a compliment. Your not like the rest of them...as opposed to what? Meaning that the rest of them (other black folks) are synonymous with something negative. I'm always so flustered when people say this or something similar to me and the countless other black folks that 'aren't like the rest of them'. There are SO many different types of black people out there yet because of media reinforcement and a few negative encounters-others have formed a false opinion of us. I hate feeling like I've already posted about this but its true and it happens all the time. Why are people surprised that I should talk a certain way, dress, be interested in certain things? What it really comes down to is a lack of exposure to each other. There are many people who don't venture out-racially-in terms of making relationships with people. And its not their fault. If they've never been exposed to anything outside of their circle then why would they ever really need to? And this goes for all races of people but I honestly believe that in order to let go of prejudices and false representations we need to try and get to know people of different cultures and lifestyles apart from the media or the few moments of contact we've had with said races.
I absolutely hate that where I live its so segregated (unconsciously mind you). There's the Hispanic, white and black areas of town and there are stigmas in all the areas. I have friends that live all over my town and yet they still will say some pretty nasty things about areas they've never even been in because of what they have HEARD and not what they have EXPERIENCED themselves.
Now mind you, I've met plenty of vile people that have come from all races yet I know that one person does not represent a culture, ethnicity, or an entire race.
*shrug* Maybe its just like that where I live. All I know is that I need to get the hell out of this city-but does it ever really change wherever you go?